How do you hide?

I have a confession to make.

For the past 3 years, I’ve been hiding.

Not literally, of course—I leave the house every day—but as an entrepreneur.

  • April 2015 was my last blog post.
  • I last posted on Twitter in December 2015.
  • February 2016 was my last post on Instagram.

It’s not that I’m unafraid of posting – I’ve posted thousands of times on social media.

But about 3 years ago, something happened. I started something that was deeply, incredibly important to me—a business. Then a book. All of the sudden, social media made me feel incredibly vulnerable.

But I didn’t admit that.

“Social media is just such a big time sink!” I would say. Or, “It’s just an ego-fueled pissing contest where others say, ‘Look at me, look at me! Look at how awesome I am!’” I would say. Or, “I’m not interested in getting addicted to likes, or becoming someone I would loathe online,” I would say.

(Those are some pretty damn convincing arguments don’t you think?)

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Lately I’ve been noticing the subtle ways that I hide.

Hiding behind pre-typed words in sales conversations. Failing to tell a potential client I don’t really believe they’re ready for coaching. Compulsively checking email instead of writing blog posts. Not approaching Jay Wilkinson at the first Cocktails and Learn.

My choosing to stay safe over being vulnerable is one of the reasons it’s taken me 3 years to fill my book of business. With growth comes risk. “If you cannot risk, you cannot grow. If you cannot grow, you cannot become your best. If you cannot become your best, you cannot be happy. If you cannot be happy, what else matters?” says Dr. David Viscott.

Choosing to hide - to not be vulnerable - ultimately means choosing stagnation.

Whether or not you’re an entrepreneur, life is an entrepreneurial venture. It requires growth and risk and fear and vulnerability.

This might be my first blog post in almost 2 years, but I’m here, I’m ready, I’m risking. And I’m ready to come out of hiding.

How do you hide?

Do you hide behind a role, whether macho, soft-spoken, or overly professional? Do you endlessly edit and revise without sending your creation out into the world? Do you wait for everything to be just right? Do you fail to introduce yourself or ask for help or be radically honest with yourself?

What is one thing that you could do more courageously over the next 7 days? (I apologize for the classic coaching question.)

I would love to hear your insights! Whether or not you choose to share, I challenge you to sit with this a while. Self-awareness pays dividends.